The Silent Cry


  1. Does it make you weak, if you are a man who suffers with depression?
  2. Or does it make you weak, if you are man that does not address his behavioral health disorder called depression?

Okay, in February 25, 2007, Newsweek the magazine published an article that titled Men and Depression: New Treatment – Amazingly,  the article stated and outlined in 2007 that:

Six million American men will be diagnosed with depression this year. But millions more suffer silently, unaware that their problem has a name or unwilling to seek treatment. In a confessional culture in which Americans are increasingly obsessed with their health, it may seem clichéd—men are from Mars, women from Venus, and all that—to say that men tend not to take care of themselves and are reluctant to own up to mental illness.

Wow! It is now 2017, today because of the stigma and shame of any disorder, society is dying at alarming rate for lack of knowledge.  According to the [NIMH] National Institute of Mental Health website: the definition for depression reads as this; 

Depression (major depressive disorder or clinical depression) is a common but serious mood disorder. It causes severe symptoms that affect how you feel, think, and handle daily activities, such as sleeping, eating, or working. To be diagnosed with depression, the symptoms must be present for at least two weeks. 

As someone who understands the challenges of depression, the affects and the effects of misdiagnoses, and or not having professional treatment,  it is important for men to learn the signs and symptoms of depression. 

The three most commonly overlooked signs of depression in men are: According to Help Guide. org

  1. Physical pain. Sometimes depression in men shows up as physical symptoms—such as backache, frequent headaches, sleep problems, sexual dysfunction, or digestive disorders—that don’t respond to normal treatment.
  2. Anger. This could range from irritability, sensitivity to criticism, or a loss of your sense of humor to road rage, a short temper, or even violence. Some men become abusive or controlling.
  3. Reckless behavior. A man suffering from depression may exhibit escapist or risky behavior such as pursuing dangerous sports, driving recklessly, or engaging in unsafe sex. You might drink too much, abuse drugs, or gamble compulsively.

The HelpGuide website also address triggers,  that I found important to include in this post such as;

Biological, psychological, and social factors all play a part in depression in men, as do lifestyle choices, relationships, and coping skills. Stressful life events or anything that makes you feel helpless, profoundly sad, or overwhelmed by stress can also trigger depression in men, including:

  • Overwhelming stress at work, school, or home
  • Marital or relationship problems
  • Not reaching important goals
  • Losing or changing a job; embarking on military service
  • Constant money problems
  • Health problems such as chronic illness, injury, disability
  • Recently quitting smoking
  • Death of a loved one
  • Family responsibilities such as caring for children, spouse, or aging parents
  • Retirement; loss of independence


Now, according to the WebMD website;

There is no known medicine, supplement, or herb that prevents a first episode of depression.

After one episode of depression, most people will experience recurrences. But you can prevent or reduce these relapses by:

  • Taking antidepressant medicines consistently as prescribed. Taking medicine for six months to a year after an initial bout of depression prevents depression from coming back.
  • Learning and practicing cognitive therapy techniques. Done properly, these techniques may work as well as antidepressant medicines for some forms of depression to help prevent recurrences.
  • Getting regular exercise and sleep.
  • Avoiding alcohol and drug use, which can cause or worsen depression and make medication treatments for depression work less effectively.
  • Talk therapy. Many kinds of psychotherapy or talk therapy are effective in treating depression. Cognitive therapy, also called cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), interpersonal psychotherapy (IPT), and “insight-oriented” psychotherapy are frequently used.

The best advice, I would like to share concerning any form of
behavioral health disorders– is to 

 find out if your health insurance covers… behavioral health disorders